To "engage in dialog" [LINK]
It's amazing how easy it is to think this way when it's the other guy's ox being gored.
Daniel Becker says those who sign a petition against gay marriage while hoping to keep their names and addresses off advocacy websites like KnowThyNeighbor.org "can't have it both ways," because such information becomes part of the public record. "Either you stand up for what you believe in," he says, "or you don't."
One of the most compelling arguments in favor of gay marriage is that it allows gays to officially proclaim to their fellow citizens their enhanced, formalized status. Following Mr. Becker's logic, we should not be at all alarmed if an anti-gay-marriage website were to list all gay couples married in the state, allowing anyone to easily contact them and, as he says, "engage in dialog."